I remember reading a saying when I was pregnant with Carter that went something like, “A woman becomes a mother when she is pregnant, a man becomes a father when he first holds his child.” I’d tell you where I read it/who said it if I could remember. But it always struck me as an interesting statement about the different ways men and women parent. And the differences of emotions between the two genders. Whether it holds true to ALL men/women – who knows? But it definitely is an inside look at the differences in at least SOME parenting moments, as I do think men digest experiences differently as parents.
An example, Chad didn’t cry on Carter’s first day of preschool or kindergarten. Or the day Carter graduated preschool. He didn’t cry when Carter turned one, or when he first rode a bike. He was proud, and supportive and he held my hand when I cried. But he handled it all very well. He told Carter how proud he was of him, he hugged him and they both went about their days … while I sat around blubbering like a crazed maniac. And I couldn’t help but wonder, what will make this man tear up with his son?
This past weekend, it may have happened. Unsure if he cried, he claims he didn’t. But from the sound of his smile over the phone on Sunday afternoon, I’d say it was just about as happy as I have heard Chad in quite a while.
It was his first father/son golf outing. They’ve played golf together in the yard, they’ve gone to driving ranges, but this time… it was just different.